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Surrinder Johal

Grief counsellor, hypnotherapist and coach
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Welcome

Sometimes we need a helping hand to move forward through our grief. I offer a range of services to support my clients through these painful times in our lives.

I am a South Asian woman and my passion is to help other women move through the process of grief and loss of loved ones and become visible for themselves.

 

I share lots of different tools to help you on your journey.

Book your 20-minute free phone

consultation today

 

About me

I was born in India immigrated to England when I was three with my family. My life however was mapped out for me from the moment I was born. I was taught never to question anything but to do as l was told – all decisions were taken out of my hands – what I studied, my career, whom l married, how to be a good Asian wife and mother. Inside something was hollow which l could not fill. As the children grew up l worked longer hours in my career in housing to avoid the sadness within my marriage and to be able to continue the perfect marriage image I had created. Issues were still there and it became unbearable to ignore and I had to make decisions to change my life. 

By the time l was 37 years old l had suffered the biggest grief of my life – my mother committed suicide less than 2 years after my father died from a massive heart attack. I was devastated my world crumbled around me and I was left empty and hollow inside.

 

l just wanted to hide away - be invisible. 

 

And that’s how l stayed for years: I numbered all those feeling by working excessively and drinking, because l thought l was doing right by my kids and not realising the damage l was causing them. My marriage did not improve, l continued to endure the emotional and sexual abuse. I was told by family that l had to stay otherwise no one would marry my beautiful daughter, so l stayed 13 more years keeping up appearances despite the sadness within my marriage and to be able to continue with the ‘perfect family’ image.

 

Then just after my 50th birthday l finally left my husband; it was a spur of the moment decision and within 3 months of me leaving he committed suicide.

 

It was at this stage l dealt with all the grief l had experienced losing my dad, my mum and my husband with an array of feelings of anger, rage guilt and sadness. These are all natural feelings which at the time but l did not understand them. I slowly came to accept all the grief that l experienced, but the pain did not go away completely but l had come to live with the pain of losing my mum in tragic circumstances.  

 

After my husband’s death, there was no script that l wanted to follow but my own gut feelings.

 

l decided to invest in my personal self-worth and re-examine who l wanted to be for me and my family and no longer to please others. I decided to change my career in housing.

 

I chose to develop self-love: something that l never had done.

 

I had some counselling initially and slowly l decided to follow my compassion to help other South Asian women on their journey. I gained qualifications in hypnotherapy and counselling and read a lot of books on self-help. l now wants to share my experience and knowledge to help you on your journey to become visible again – bring the colour back into your life – you only have one life. 

Let me give you a helping hand

to move forward through your grief and loss

to become visible again 

 

Services

Hypnotherapy

A moment of calm to explore what's holding you back and unlock patterns, negative thoughts and hidden blocks.

Counselling

Gentle and effective traditional counselling sessions to help you understand the intense emotions that you may be dealing with.

Chai & Heal

A safe space to share your experience of grief and loss with other likeminded women. Let's support each other in our healing journey.

 
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Testimonials

My sessions with Surinder are not just about my grief. Although we focus on that mainly, she has also picked up on the other issues in my life and we are working on those too. I come away from sessions feeling positive and if that feeling doesn’t last throughout the week, it’s talked about at the next session. 

 

Each session has me looking forward to the next.

Dawn Skerritt
 
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Inner calm meditation

A free guided meditation that harnesses the effectiveness of hypnosis to get you relaxed and fall asleep in 5 minutes